proverbs {paraphrased}

proverbs 15:1

'...a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger'

when i respond in patience and humility, with a sweet-tempered tone of voice, to a comment made by someone else, whether that comment was laced with sarcasm, criticism, frustration or antagonism (which can sometimes be concealing hurt, pain or confusion), i am doing my part as a peace-maker to diffuse what could very easily become an otherwise explosive situation.
it stands to reason then, that if i react to remarks with a negative, sarcastic, impatient and otherwise high-and-mighty tone of voice, i'm sure to be doing my part to provoke an argument....and effectively tear down the other person, rather than build them up.